The Women Men Adore – Men And Relationships – Advice On How To Get Him To Commit To You

The Women Men Adore – Men And Relationships – Advice On How To Get Him To Commit To You

Understanding men and relationshipsisn’t the easiest thing for any woman. Although we can feel deeply within our hearts that the man we’re with is the one we’re destined to spend our lives with, that feeling may not be mutual. Not all men are quick to share their future with a woman, and even though he says he loves you, taking the plunge into a more serious commitment just might not be what man want. It’s frustrating to be in this situation because you may feel that your hands are tied. You don’t want to leave him because you’re fearful that you won’t ever meet anyone like him again and you’re also discouraged by the knowledge that you may never get the commitment you desire from him. There is a way to ensure that you get what you need from the relationship.

The first thing you must know when you are trying to understand men and relationships is that they think and feel very differently than we do. Men are much more logical when it comes to love. They typically don’t believe in the ideal of love at first sight and they usually bide their time when it comes to taking a relationship to the next level. Once a man feels secure in the knowledge that a woman adores him, he won’t continue to work at impressing her. He has you and he knows that.

If you believe that’s what is happening in your relationship, it’s leaving you with the short end of the stick. As a woman you dream about being with a man who has made a deep commitment to you. For some women it doesn’t necessarily mean that they need an engagement ring or a wedding proposal. They simply just want to bask in the knowledge that they are deeply loved by a man who is devoted only to them. The problem is that you may have contributed to the current dynamic of your relationship. You may have actually played a hand in ensuring that your man sees no reason for a formal commitment between you two.

You see, we often create our own romantic scenarios based on how deeply we love a man. If your boyfriend knows that you love him and only him, he’s happy in that. He knows you aren’t going anywhere so any effort he has to continue to put into the relationship to win you over is very minimal. That’s why you are the only one who can change that. You can do that starting right now.

Some advice on how to get him to commit to you suggests that you break up with him to show him that he doesn’t own your heart. I wouldn’t advise going quite that far. You do need to subtly show him that you are not completely and solely his. Start doing that by spending more time away from him. Engage yourself in your other important relationships again, be it with friends or family members. Start living more as a single woman rather than a woman waiting for a commitment. Make your own decisions, plan your own future and don’t always be available at his beck and call. If you can do this, he’ll start to see that the woman was willing to wait forever for a commitment, may not be so willing anymore. That’s what will help to change his mind about taking things to the next level.
Gillian Reynolds


The Women Men Adore – Understanding Men in Relationships

The Women Men Adore – Understanding Men in Relationships

Every woman appreciates how necessary it is to identify with her man in the relationship, because let’s face it, if she can’t recognize his deepest needs and desires, how will she make him happy and ultimately keep him interested?

Relations between men and women most often go astray because there is a break-down in communications and a lack of rapport. So how can a woman go about maintaining that special connection with her man? What can she do to keep him interested in both her and the continuation of a healthy, vibrant relationship?

I know that you can appreciate the fact that men and women are completely different, but that does not have to be to the detriment of your liaison…not by a long shot. The differences, though sometimes vast, can also be what bring a certain spark to the relationship, what create that special kind of lasting bond between you. Understanding men in relationships also has a reflection on how well you understand yourself.

Don’t be afraid to be yourself, men will appreciate you for who you are and those that don’t are clearly not able to comprehend just how truly amazing you really are. You deserve a man who can identify with you, a man who makes you feel special and values you for who you really are.

In the same way, you must also realize how important it is for you to fan his ego when his ego needs fanning. Boost his confidence when his confidence needs boosting. Compliment his strength when it is your words of encouragement that will inspire him.

All the love and consideration you desire, your man desires also. When he feels that you understand him and that he can tell you anything it is you he will always turn to and it is you he will trust. And he too will act as your buffer zone, your best friend and sturdy companion when you need him, your Mr. Right.

Being sincere in giving your love and not asking for anything in return will strengthen the bond between you, increasing the level of intimacy you share. Some things may be hard to share at first, but once you have shared them and found that your partner loves you even more for having shared your innermost self with him, you will feel strong and confident in the relationship. You will be on the road to something lasting and meaningful, a relationship that could last a lifetime.

Understanding men in relationships is also about being ‘understanding to men’. Often they feel that they have the whole world on their shoulders and if you can be there for them when they need you most, if you can be loving and understanding, caring and kind. He will devote himself to you completely and he will want you with him for life, as his life partner. He will respect and love you like nothing you’ve ever known. This type of bonding is what lasts a life-time, what keeps a man faithful. Attractive women may come into his life now and again, but he will only have eyes for you. Learn what men want.

May yours be a journey of much joy.

-Tanya Haden Tebb-